Are we really living?

Today, many people ask themselves if they are really living.

 

This question can be approached in two ways. In a philosophical way, or in a way that is reflecting society’s views.

 

If we were to try to explain and answer the question of ‘Are we really living?’ in a philosophical way, we would never get anywhere due to differing opinions and views. Some say that we experience 7 minutes of our lives when we die, which seems to last forever, so the question asks if we are in this state of uncertainty right now. But, as with most things, you can never be sure.

 

My opinion sways more to society’s influence. Many young people today suffer from body issues and suffer from mental health issues such as depressions etc. Many people spend their lives existing and being alive, but are not actually living. Parents and adults scald us young people for spending time alone or spending time in our rooms because they think we are being lazy, or because we don’t want to talk to anyone, when in actual fact, some teenagers spend a lot of their time in their room because this is the only place that they feel whole. In the privacy of an insecure teenager’s room, there is no competition and there is no stimulus to make this person feel they are worthless. Many teenagers, and in fact all people do not live because they do not feel themselves to be worthy of it. And this is something that needs to be changed. Body image scares are forever growing in the media, pushing our young generations further and further into a downward spiral of self hatred. We as a society do not acknowledge these things because we do not want to deal with the problems that will arise when this self hatred problem is tackled, because they know that more problems will surface. 

 

We cannot change everything about ourselves, but we can change the amount of belief we have in ourselves

 

“Believing you can do something means that you’re already half way there’

 

 

sh4nnon1 x

Do we, members of society actually understand society’s values?

That is the question. Do we actually understand?

 

For many people, including myself, people of society today seek and strive to be the epitome of a member of society. Someone who has perfect hair, perfect teeth, a perfect figure, a perfect bone structure. This. This is what members of society today describe as perfect.These kind of people are described as beautiful. What society doesn’t understand is that by sending out the message to one individual that have these features, another message is sent out to 100 girls and boys telling them that ‘they aren’t good enough’. 

 

We spend many hours of our lives on social media websites, constantly comparing ourselves to images and striving to obtain a ‘fuller lip’ or a ‘thigh gap’ in some cynical way that maybe if we had these things, then maybe our lives would be better. Many people question their true essence and body image because of the social norms that society force upon us. In recent years, images of celebrities that are so photo shopped you can’t even see anything real cause people every year to starve themselves or undergo major surgery to look like someone else. So many ‘inspirational quotes’ went round the social media network,effectively trying to boycott social expectations. But, to this day, people still seek the approval of others. We are spending our time blaming society for not allowing people to express themselves, when in fact, the ones complaining and blaming are those who make up society. To this day, most people cannot stand out from a crowd in fear of rejection, exclusion and hatred. This behaviour is evolutionary. Pack animals would not survive if they stood alone, and we are still like it now. The reason we do not break away from society  isn’t because we do not care for change in the world. We do not break away from society because it means sacrificing survival, and it displays the selfish side in everyone. Everyone fears being alone, and so we avoid it at all costs.

 

As a very confident individual, i strive to be happy in my life, and yet, i still cannot shout or scream in a public place if i have achieved a life goal. According to society, i am also not allowed to be sad, or to feel pain, because this is, according to society, because i want attention.

 

What people of today do not realise, is that we cannot wait for society to change. We must change it.