What 2014 has taught me.

There are certain things in life that you just can’t control. No matter how hard you try, you’ll always fall short. I consider myself to be a open-minded person who sometimes shows her passionate views a little too strongly. We still live in a society that constantly states “be yourself” but undermines it with a subliminal message about how “you must be yourself in this way”. I am a strong person, and I strive to fight every battle. Luckily, I’ve never faced much heartache or pain in my life and I look for the positives in everything.

I spend much of my time focusing on school and on achieving good grades but my friends will always be on the top of my importance list. I think that sometimes people get lost in their own little world of problems and issues and miss what is around them. An event that happened a few months back sent a shock to my system and the realisation that “other things are going on around you” hit me.

I don’t know who else has experienced this, but there are people in life that you will just ‘click’ with, and these are the people that you have to keep hold of. Its possible to have a soul mate in a non-sensual sense, and you find yourself doing everything you can to make them happy. I was so lucky to find this person so early on in my life and things have sometimes been rocky, but there is true comfort found there for both of us. There isn’t anything that we wouldn’t do for each other, lets be honest here, we’re friendship goals for others;)

2014 has been a weird year for me, but also the best year of my life. I know that’s a really cringy thing to say but it has. This year I learnt that I was stronger than ever, and I’ve had the best support from some truly special people in my life. This year I learnt that it doesn’t matter what people think. I also learnt that people aren’t always what they seem, and for the most part they aren’t it at all. People who you thought would be there for you all through everything aren’t, but its okay, because people change and so do you.

2014 taught me to make the most of every situation and never take any time spent with someone for granted. It taught me to just try my best in everything and as a whole I’m a completely different person to who I was when we entered 2014. We are all about to close a chapter of our lives and that’s one of the scariest things to do, but its worth it when you see the rewards later on.

I’m so thankful that I’ve found the people in my life, and I wouldn’t change them for the world. I know who really matters to me but I also know who I matter to, and it’s the best feeling in the world.

2014 taught me to be there for others, but it also taught me to be there for myself. You can’t keep running yourself into the ground until your brain can’t even function anymore. Someone very close to my heart once said that “accepting help doesn’t undermine your strength, it increases it” and its so very true. At the end of the day you matter just as much as everyone else does, and its okay to put yourself first. That doesn’t make you selfish, it makes you human.

on a side note, sorry i’ve been gone so long, i’m back with loads more blog posts in the new year, all my love, sh4nnon1 x

S O R R Y !

Hello everybody!

Sorry I have been away for so long, life has been getting away from me.

I have loads of new ideas for my blog posts so make sure that you keep updated with that<

Hope you’re all having a lovely summer so far!

Shannon, xo

Changes.

Its crazy really, because life does change incredibly quickly. But as i have grown up this year i have definitely come to terms that life really does move on, and even though at the time, changes seem awful and unwanted, they really do make a difference, and with every change and difference that occurs in our life, something happens in our favour, and as hard as it seems at the time, we, as human beings eventually deal with hardships.

My life has changed this year and it has honestly been one of the best things that has ever happened to me. I don’t for a minute wish to suggest that my life before this year wasn’t enjoyable because it was. This year has been a year of growing up for me.

I would like to consider myself to be a sensitive and caring person, but i have always put other peoples feelings before my own. it seems to be something that is hard-wired into my brain that i need to care about others before i care about myself.

But, i am also very tough-skinned, and things rarely bother me which is why i think that for various reasons in the past, many of the shifts in responsibility have come crashing down on me. I had always told myself that crying was a sign of weakness and that i shouldn’t ever let my guard down, and that telling people about my problems was silly because in reality, nobody was actually bothered. In my year, i have got better at sharing my feelings with people i have truly learnt to trust, especially within the last 6 months. I’m still not perfect at sharing my problems and feelings with other people but i’m getting better, and for the first time in what must be a good year and a half, i cried at a problem that i was dealing with. At the time crying felt like a release, but i still regret my actions, which just enforces further that my brain is still wired in the same way.

There have been some very special people enter my life this year, who i will not mention by name, but they know who they are. One girl, who i now consider to be one of my best friends came into my life in September, and since then it has felt like i have known her for my entire life and i have never been more thankful to have her in my life. She is honestly one of the most innocent, naive, sweetest most celebrity obsessed girl i’ve ever met, but i would’t change her for anything. She taught me this year to just have fun and to not think too deeply and it has benefited me greatly.

Two very special people entered my life shortly after, one who i shall name Beyonce(;)) and the other i shall name Twin. These two people taught me what it is like to have people support you continually even when you feel like you do not need any support. I have always had support in my life from my best friend since year 7 but, unfortunately, we do not see so much of each other anymore, but our friendship is still as strong as ever. I have never been so proud of Bey in my entire life, because i frequently smile because i feel so privileged to know her and i know that she will stay in my life for a very long time.

Twin, however is my spirit animal, and after knowing her for a very short amount of time has become incredibly important in my life. We have a very close friendship that i hope never fades and i know that she has my back and i have hers.

In brief, i am so thankful for the people that continue to support me. A close friend of mine, who shall be named swimmer, has been a continual laughing station, with the most contagious laugh in the entire world, but as much as we laugh together, i would trust her with my life 600 times over and she is one of the kindest people i have ever met.

I have so many people that i am grateful for, All my girls, yes, every single one of you, Obsessed Fan, Bey, Twin, Swimmer, idgafqueen, MummyR, Dancer, Giantess, Football Girl, Youtuber, Little Piglet, Driver. They have been the most perfect friends. I also am very thankful for my twins, for being a continual support and help for the last year. I love my twins so dearly and they never fail to make me smile, and i appreciate them so much<3

Life does change, and now i truly feel like i am growing into my life and i know that changes will occur, and from now on, i’m only moving forward.

Are we really living?

Today, many people ask themselves if they are really living.

 

This question can be approached in two ways. In a philosophical way, or in a way that is reflecting society’s views.

 

If we were to try to explain and answer the question of ‘Are we really living?’ in a philosophical way, we would never get anywhere due to differing opinions and views. Some say that we experience 7 minutes of our lives when we die, which seems to last forever, so the question asks if we are in this state of uncertainty right now. But, as with most things, you can never be sure.

 

My opinion sways more to society’s influence. Many young people today suffer from body issues and suffer from mental health issues such as depressions etc. Many people spend their lives existing and being alive, but are not actually living. Parents and adults scald us young people for spending time alone or spending time in our rooms because they think we are being lazy, or because we don’t want to talk to anyone, when in actual fact, some teenagers spend a lot of their time in their room because this is the only place that they feel whole. In the privacy of an insecure teenager’s room, there is no competition and there is no stimulus to make this person feel they are worthless. Many teenagers, and in fact all people do not live because they do not feel themselves to be worthy of it. And this is something that needs to be changed. Body image scares are forever growing in the media, pushing our young generations further and further into a downward spiral of self hatred. We as a society do not acknowledge these things because we do not want to deal with the problems that will arise when this self hatred problem is tackled, because they know that more problems will surface. 

 

We cannot change everything about ourselves, but we can change the amount of belief we have in ourselves

 

“Believing you can do something means that you’re already half way there’

 

 

sh4nnon1 x

MONDAY BLUES: THE CURE | sh4nnon1

Everybody has experienced the Monday Blues at some point in their lives, BUT here are my tips to banish those Monday Blues

 

LEGGO,

 

1.  TAKE A HOT BATH~ Nothing will feel better than to shh your troubles and blues with hot water, scented candles and quiet music. Trust me, this one works a treat
   

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2. HAVE A MINI PAMPER SESSION~ Throw on a face-mask, and providing your obligations for the next day, either school or work allow it, find something therapeutic to do such as painting your nails. You’ll end up spending some quality time relaxing and you’ll have something you’re proud of and like looking at at the end! 
   

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3.  GO TO BED EARLIER~ Try to get into bed at a reasonable hour, meaning you have to spend less time of Monday awake and also you won’t feel so groggy the next day! If this tip is also done on a Sunday night, then your Monday will already improve if you’re feeling rested.
   

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4. PLAN OUT YOUR TIME~ Plan out your time for Monday night! Try to get your homework or work done waaay before the night arises, meaning you have as much time to relax as possible and you can settle knowing that all your work is done!
   

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5. WATCH YOUR FAVOURITE FILM OR TV SHOW~ Nothing cheers me up like a good ol’ episode of FRIENDS, so find a show and watch contently, without thinking about anything else for that period of time.
   

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6. WEAR COMFY CLOTHING~ When I am at home, i’m never in anything but my pyjamas, so throw on your onesie or your pyjamas and make the most of lounging around. Being in your pyjamas makes everyone feel cosy and relaxed!

 

These tips won’t instantly make you love Mondays, but they sure make it a heck of a lot easier:)

 

 

Don’t forget to follow, comment and like down below and i’ll speak to you on my next post!

 

Good Luck!

love sh4nnon1 x 

 

100 TOP FILMS<3

1. FROZEN
2. TANGLED
3. DEVIL WEARS PRADA
4. JUST MY LUCK
5. WHAT TO EXPECT WHEN YOU’RE EXPECTING 
6. THE LAKE HOUSE
7. GROWN UPS
8. GROWN UPS 2
9. KUNG FU PANDA 
10. THE BEAUTY SHOP
11. THE IMPOSSIBLE 
12. ICE AGE 4
13. SPIDER MAN
14. HAUNTED MANSION
15. FINDING NEMO
16. UNBREAKABLE 
17. SINISTER 
18. INSIDIOUS 
19. TEETH
20. THE HUMAN CENTIPEDE 
21. TOY STORY
22. THE PROPOSAL
23. PETER PAN
24. WILD CHILD 
25. MONSTERS VS ALIENS
26. MONSTER IN LAW 
27. UP
28. WALL-E
29. MONSTERS INC
30. MONSTERS UNIVERSITY 
31. DESPICABLE ME 
32. DESPICABLE ME 2 
33. SHREK
34. WRECK-IT-RALPH
35. AMERICAN PIE 
36. ANGUS, THONGS AND PERFECT SNOGGING
37. PITCH PERFECT 
38. I GIVE IT A YEAR
39. EVAN ALMIGHTY
40. BRUCE ALMIGHTY 
41. 21 JUMP STREET
42. FORGETTING SARAH MARSHALL
43. BIG DADDY 
44. BEDTIME STORIES 
45. ALVIN AND THE CHIPMUNKS 
46. GREEN STREET 
47. THE HUNGER GAMES 
48. CATCHING FIRE
49. DIVERGENT 
50. VALENTINES DAY
51. JUNO
52. DONT MESS WITH THE ZOHAN
53. I NOW PRONOUNCE YOU CHUCK AND LARRY 
54. A LITTLE BIT OF HEAVEN
55. ORPHAN 
56. THE HELP
57. HOW THE GRINCH STOLE CHRISTMAS 
58. ELF 
59. SANTA CLAUS 1
60. THE POLAR EXPRESS 
61. SONG FOR MARION
62. THE CROODS
63. PURSUIT OF HAPPINESS 
64. PRINCESS DIARIES 
65. ALICE IN WONDERLAND 
66. HARRY POTTER
67. TWILIGHT
68. NEW MOON
69. ECLIPSE 
70. BREAKING DAWN 
71. CONFESSIONS OF A SHOPAHOLIC 
72. BEASTLY
73. ABDUCTION
74. LOL
75. CONFESSIONS OF A TEENAGE DRAMA QUEEN
76. THE PACIFIER 
77. WE BOUGHT A ZOO
78. 127 HOURS 
79. DARK SKIES 
80. JUMPING JACK FLASH 
81. MEAN GIRLS 
82. MULAN
83. THE EMPERORS NEW GROOVE
84. HERCULES 
85. THE LITTLE MERMAID 
86. SAVING MR. BANKS 
87. THE VOW 
88. 12 YEARS A SLAVE 
89. ENDLESS LOVE
90. MAMMA MIA 
91. AVATAR 
92. LOVE ACTUALLY
93. CALENDER GIRLS
94. DIRTY DANCING 
95. WAKING UP IN VEGAS
96. TITANIC 
97. BRIDGET JONES 
98. CHRISTMAS WITH THE CRANKS 
99. BACK TO THE FUTURE 
100. THE HOLIDAY

Do we, members of society actually understand society’s values?

That is the question. Do we actually understand?

 

For many people, including myself, people of society today seek and strive to be the epitome of a member of society. Someone who has perfect hair, perfect teeth, a perfect figure, a perfect bone structure. This. This is what members of society today describe as perfect.These kind of people are described as beautiful. What society doesn’t understand is that by sending out the message to one individual that have these features, another message is sent out to 100 girls and boys telling them that ‘they aren’t good enough’. 

 

We spend many hours of our lives on social media websites, constantly comparing ourselves to images and striving to obtain a ‘fuller lip’ or a ‘thigh gap’ in some cynical way that maybe if we had these things, then maybe our lives would be better. Many people question their true essence and body image because of the social norms that society force upon us. In recent years, images of celebrities that are so photo shopped you can’t even see anything real cause people every year to starve themselves or undergo major surgery to look like someone else. So many ‘inspirational quotes’ went round the social media network,effectively trying to boycott social expectations. But, to this day, people still seek the approval of others. We are spending our time blaming society for not allowing people to express themselves, when in fact, the ones complaining and blaming are those who make up society. To this day, most people cannot stand out from a crowd in fear of rejection, exclusion and hatred. This behaviour is evolutionary. Pack animals would not survive if they stood alone, and we are still like it now. The reason we do not break away from society  isn’t because we do not care for change in the world. We do not break away from society because it means sacrificing survival, and it displays the selfish side in everyone. Everyone fears being alone, and so we avoid it at all costs.

 

As a very confident individual, i strive to be happy in my life, and yet, i still cannot shout or scream in a public place if i have achieved a life goal. According to society, i am also not allowed to be sad, or to feel pain, because this is, according to society, because i want attention.

 

What people of today do not realise, is that we cannot wait for society to change. We must change it.